Choosing the right self care Every 6 weeks I have a session with my homeopath. What I love about it is not only is she helping me with my stomach issues, but she digs a little deeper and will often ask something that is not even thought about. In one she asked me what I did for myself, what kind of self care do I do. Proud as punch I told her I go out walking, journal, practice gratitude, I take care of myself, as in my body by eating the right things and looking after my skin, ( I do love a skin care routine). I practice yoga, I meet up with friends regularly. I believe I have a good life/work balance. She smiled and said that’s all good but what are you really doing for yourself. What I wasn’t doing was I wasn’t dealing with the grief of losing my mum and my brothers, which meant I wasn’t dealing with the emotional stuff. You see my after my mum died my brother died 9 months later, then 16 months after that during covid another brother died and then 16 months later my eldest brother passed away. So there was no time to grieve the loss of my mum. I have the tools for coping with stress and anxiety so I was using them. Last year I had a breath work session which stirred up a lot of the emotions I’d been holding onto. I wanted to be strong for my daughters and grandchildren and my sister in laws. So much so I kept pushing down my own feelings and emotions. I’ve since done more work on myself and even had some therapy.We can be a bit like a bottle of fizzy juice. We shake it and shake it and it bubbles and bubbles until it’s reached its peak and then we open it a little bit, but not enough to let it all out, then we shut it back off again. Then we just keep repeating that process. Sometimes we just have to leave the lid off and let it out. There’s more to self care than doing things you like to do. Taking care of the physical body is one, but it’s just as important to take care of the mental, emotional and spiritual part of you. What do you do emotionally, mentally or spiritually for your self care?Marina ... See MoreSee Less
You choose how you react It’s not just what we say to ourselves that can affect how we feel, it’s what those around us say to us too. ❌ When I had post natal depression my ex mother in law used to just tell me to pull myself together, or just get over it along with various other unhelpful comments. All it did was make me worse, feel inadequate and that I was the only one going through it, which inevitably led me to feel even more depressed. I wish I’d know then what I know now, and that’s that I had the choice on how I felt when she said them. ✅Having at least one person around you who can say the right things, even if they don’t really know or understand what you’re going through can make a big difference. But remember it’s you’re choice how you react to their words, so choose wisely. 🆘 If you have people around you that think they’re helping but find they’re not saying what you feel you need to hear then ask them to reframe it, to change what they say. Help them understand and know the right things to say to you when you have those moments of depression or anxiety. Do you have the right people around you?Marina ... See MoreSee Less
Good morning. Did you know that there are other things that can increase your feelings of anxiety. ☕️. Have you had too much coffee. Drinking too much coffee can give you palpitations. 🛌. Not having enough sleep. Being sleep deprived can worsen anxiety. 💦. Not drinking enough water. Although dehydration doesn’t cause anxiety it can trigger an anxiety attack and exaggerate symptoms. 🍭. Too much sugar. Your blood sugars can spike and then crash, your mood changes and anxiety levels can spike. Be mindful of what you put in your body as well as your mind. Marina ... See MoreSee Less
Every one is responsible for their own choices in life. As adults it is up to you how we react to situations or people. Perhaps you've had a terrible past but how you chose to deal with it and move on is up to you. You may be in a job that you don't really like or want to be in, it's your choice to get out. Have you ever used the "it's my parents fault I'm like this" get out clause…it's your choice to change that too.How about "my age stops me from doing…" Is it really your age or is it how you think? Depending on what it is I sometimes use this 🤦🏻♀️. If you're struggling to make the choices, for what ever reason you've created, and you want to move on, to get over the past, to make life changing decisions that's right for you, to feel as young as you want to then get in touch, we can help you. You can make the changes you desire. Marina ... See MoreSee Less
Common effects of traumaYou might not know where your anxiety comes from, you just know you have it, and can’t pinpoint anything that triggers it. When working with clients using Silent Counselling together we can find out when it started and if your body is storing trauma that may have created the anxiety. Trauma isn’t alway when you’ve experienced mental or physical abuse. It can include an event where you’ve felt,Frightened Under threatHumiliated RejectedAbandoned Unsupported TrappedAshamed It can happen with a one off or an ongoing event, directly harmed, witnessing someone being harmed, being affected by trauma in the family. Trauma affects everyone differently. It can include some of the below as well as many other feelings. Flashbacks Panic attacks High Anxiety Low self esteem Sleep problemsTrust issuesLack of self care Alcohol and substance abuse. Often what you think is the problem, isn’t the problem. Marina ... See MoreSee Less