Trauma can impact your daily lifeYou might not realise it, but when you have experience trauma in your life it can have an impact on your day to day life. Trauma isn’t just something that has happened in the past, it sometimes lingers, and can show up in ways that you don’t expect. It can affect your thoughts, emotions, relationships and even your body. If you’ve ever felt stuck, exhausted or on edge for no apparent reason, your past experiences might still be influencing your present. For many years I let my trauma hold me back from doing so many things. Including going on holidays. Here are some ways that trauma can impact your daily life. ❤️🩹 You are always in fight or flight. Feeling constantly anxious, on edge or maybe even easily frightened. It’s because trauma keeps the nervous system in a state of high alert, making it hard to relax even if you’re in a safe space. ❤️🩹 You struggle with trust boundaries. You might find that you push people away, or maybe even let the wrong ones in. Trauma can make you overly guarded or too acted to say “no” to people because of past experiences. ❤️🩹 You have negative self talk. That little voice that says “I’m not good enough” or “I’m useless…” is because trauma plants those beliefs deep in your mind, making them feel like facts. THEY ARE NOT. ❤️🩹 You avoid certain situations, people or places. Without realising it you might find there are things that remind you of the past, maybe a relationship, crowded place or it could be certain conversations. That avoidance is a defence mechanism that you have created, but it can also keep you stuck. ❤️🩹 Your body feels the burden. Things like headaches, tiredness, tension or even digestive issues. (Think constipation, not wanting to let your 💩 go). Trauma isn’t just a mental issue, it can also be stored in your body. If you’re feeling tired all the time it might be some unresolved emotional pain that’s weighing you down. Trauma can be mental, emotional, physical or spiritual, and when I work using Silent Counselling we look to find out which of these it can be and where your trauma is stored. Close your eyes and imagine what it would feel like to finally release that weight. To feel calm, confident and free from the past. Healing is possible. I can see so many ways in which my trauma showed up for me in all of the above, how does it show up for you? Marina ... See MoreSee Less
Weekly Affirmation Calm doesn’t just exist when everything is “sorted”. When you’ve finished your to do list, once you’ve got everyone else in the house organised or finished a task at work. The real calm is found in those small moments that you have create for yourself throughout the day. It might be a few minutes here and there. Maybe taking yourself outside for some fresh air. Closing your eyes and taking a few deep breathes. Unclenching your jaw when you realise that there is tension there. This week’s affirmation is “Calm is available to me throughout the day”. It’s not something that you to happen, it’s something you create that you can return to again and again. The more you return to it the more familiar it becomes and the easier it is to achieve. For the next 7 days practice taking a few moments just to find that calm. What do you do to bring more calm into your life?Marina ... See MoreSee Less